What if one day you decide not to breathe anymore, that can't be possible, you might say??…You just breathe, you need it to live! Yet this does happen to a person who decides not to eat anymore. It's as if the system says "I can live without needing anything" I deny that which I need.
To take food is to take precisely, to be able to literally receive.
It is a yes to life, a yes to giving what you need.
At a young age we develop survival mechanisms that protect us from the world around us. That is a good thing, otherwise we would not survive as a child in any privileged life situation, the child will have to learn to protect itself.
Survival mechanisms arise when a child experiences pain or fear or when there is denial by adults of the child's needs and yes... this happens in the healthiest families too.
A child will always have moments when it is suddenly hit in its vulnerable soul. This is because no protection mechanisms have yet been developed as is the case with adults. So we say, children are still pure, by which we also mean that children have not yet developed weapons that can protect him or her from pain. So the pain also comes in pure, right in the bull's eye!
A sub-person is born when the child is affected too much or not provided for in his (emotional) needs, this only happens when something repeats itself more often. The child's system has to do something to prevent his vulnerable soul from being affected again. A sub-person is born to find a way to deal with the situation but also to keep the world around him or her safe.
Food is something that a body naturally feels as a need, but what if a part is born in a child, adolescent or adult that denies these needs?
Not taking in food is not only a denial of need but also a way to send a message to your outside world. Let food carry many messages within it.
In my opinion, a part that protects the inner child should always be approached as positive. It is precisely that part that has been able to protect the child for a long time. Taking away this part can have catastrophic consequences. Respect is served here and making a sincere connection with this part will be very beneficial for recovery.
The important thing is to acknowledge the part, to investigate it and to know what this part asks for and especially what it stands for!
The “I” as a whole is often snowed under by the “don’t eat monster”. Bringing the “I” to the surface and strengthening it as a whole will ensure that the part of the person sees that it is no longer as necessary as before to protect things.
Reconnecting with your own inner child will benefit from learning to recognize your own needs. Recognizing, communicating and expressing your own needs is an important part of therapy.
I believe that every eating disorder can come to a full recovery. This from my own experience of having struggled with this for 15 years and maybe 20 years of my life. I know the way out and will also write from experience how I did this.
Do you also want to fully recover from an eating disorder? I would like to schedule a meeting to get to know each other without any obligation and investigate how I can help you.
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